There was a time when I thought what I was doing was my calling. Whether it was during my baseball playing days, or more recently as a personal trainer, I’ve always focused on my title.
I was the field general as the catcher. I thrived on the field directing and keeping my teammates aware of the scenarios and what might transpire. My responsibilities outside of fielding my position required me to be thinking one to two pitches ahead and relay to my teammates their duties for certain situations. I was a second coach on the field.
But, those days came to an end. And when they did I struggled significantly with my purpose and sense of fulfillment.
So, I figured I’d stay with athletics. Since my degree was Kinesiology personal training was a natural fit. The doing is what fulfilled me. So much so that I opened my own business as a result of my success.
Unfortunately, the trade-off of my time made me despise the doing. So, I hired a team.
“This is it,” I thought once again. After all, coaching my team to succeed came naturally. Supporting and educating my staff, to help them and ultimately the business grow, was very rewarding.
Then I sold the business to raise my daughter. At that moment I became a Stay-at-Home Dad. Helping my child develop and grow.
However, no title or “doing” was actually what made me fulfilled. They all came with hardship and struggles that deflated my weak understanding of fulfillment.
In 2012/2013 I “hit a wall” with my faith and belief in God. I had so many questions, but no answers. Hard questions that made men of faith shrink back from me. Not out of fear, but inadequacy. They didn’t know how to “fix” me.
But I did have men in my life willing to walk with me in my struggle.
As a result, I came to the realization I didn’t know God.
So, for 20 or so months I struggled. But that struggle and wrestling with God ultimately led me to know Him on a much deeper and intimate level. Thus, discovering who he is.
Wanna know the cool part?
I also discovered my True Self. By discovering who God is, I was able to see myself through his eyes.
Through His Eyes
Here’s what I discovered.
- Uniquely made (and gifted)
- Extremely flawed (broken)
- Deeply loved for both my gifts and my flaws
But more importantly, I am loved by God for my potential as I grow to know and develop the talents He has given me.
In doing that, I glorify the Almighty because I am living out the way he created me to be.
I become the vision he had for me (Gen 1:27) when I was merely a blank canvas before him. God’s artistry is fulfilled by my personal growth.
What is Fulfillment?
What does it mean to be fulfilled? To experience fulfillment?
As I’ve discovered, it’s when you realize and release your giftedness that brings ultimate fulfillment.
There is a common thread in my story and with everything I did and am currently doing.
I thrive on helping others realize their potential. I listen, reflect, question, and paint pictures with my words that help others grow.
It was never about a position, or job title, or status amongst peers.
It was never the “doing” that fulfilled me. Realizing and releasing my gift(s) fulfills me.
Discover your authentic self. All of your gifts and talents. Then, GIVE that freely to the world around you. This is where true fulfillment lies.
You’re created for a purpose. You have unique talents and gifts. May you realize what those are and start experiencing the fulfillment you were created for.
P.S. My path to self-discovery was not done solo. I invest heavily in a coach. I have a community of men that supports me and allows me to be who I am.
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